Try CBT, Somatic Therapy, ACT, Schema Therapy, Jungian Analytic Psychology (only once most other traums have been addressed or in progress) and try and heal whatever trauma you got in your life so far.
MEDITATION – know yourself –
Pick a model and stay consistent – rein in your monkey mind!
If you don’t like to meditate, pick a hobby that lets you empty your mind for longer stretches of time
FIGHT OR FLIGHT!
Stop it. Look it up, it’s the culmination of all the stress you’ve accumulated in the body, keeping it forever locked in a silent struggle. The panic button is always pressed, and therefore damaged and can’t return back to normal by itself. Most of the time it’s a silent struggle that we don’t even realize it’s taking place.
Try Lymbic system retraining (Gupta Program, or similar free options online)
Vagal nerve stimulation/relaxation – good stuff
Red light therapy – some say it works wonders, but you need the right equipment for it too. I think it can work with a regular red light bulb (but incandescent, if you can still find them)
Remove LED lights, from wherever you can, and switch to incandescent bulbs or other types of light that has multiple or all light wavelengths – unfortunately, LED light is bad for our brains and health. Fact.
WORK/LIFE BALANCE
It’s just work, relax. Don’t stress too much about your career, it’s just a means to an end… unless you’re actually saving the world, curing cancer etc. Even then, it’s ok to have a good work/life balance. There is more to life than work.
NO SOCIAL MEDIA – Sorry… you need to go cold turkey for a few months at least. What would life look like without social media? This includes most doomsday news as well.
IT’S OK TO GET BORED. Try it, no kidding.
RELATIONSHIP WORK
Family work – heal those old wounds, forgive and move on. They won’t change just because you want them to, and it’s ok. You’re still valuable.
Marriage work – Now this is the real deal. Marriage is fun in the first few years, but then all the little issues start piling up and putting pressure on your bond. Don’t sweep them under the rug. Discuss them as soon as they crop up. Don’t go to bed angry with each other. Forgive. We are not our parents, so we needn’t repeat their mistakes.
Children work – Children are not the better versions of ourselves. They are little independent humans that only need your guidance and love, not your unaccomplished life goals.
Work work (toxic people in the workplace) – Learn to say no. Stand up for your self. Not able to? Go back to point 1.1 above and deal with that shit.
VULERABILITY – try it, for realz. Being vulnerable is the true path to success in life.
MUSIC – not all music is equal, and modern music now has patterns that are designed to create addiction. I know, right? 🙁 Listen to music created by people who were not aiming to make a profit at any cost to our mental health. I would learn to appreciate classical music more, it has only benefits and no downsides.
BEAUTY – start thinking about what is Beauty, in art, music, nature, people etc.
PHILOSOPHY – what is Good, what is BAD? What is Morality? Why should we be moral?
READ.BOOKS.OFTEN –> Start with the classics that you never read so far, now that you don’t spend so much time on social media anymore. 😀